Your Parents are Gay? Call Child Welfare!

I’ve already established that an unfortunate number of people in the society are all too vocal in telling the homosexual community that they CANNOT be Christians. So on a similar line of reasoning, I imagine a comparable percentage would attempt to tell me I CANNOT be a parent.  Their reasoning may not fall under the same “divine scripture” from thousands of years ago category, but I’m sure it is similarly lacking logic and research oriented proof.

Feel free to throw your arguments at me, because I am living proof on a daily basis that homosexuals can be just as good of parents as their heterosexual counterparts. And despite all accusations thrown out there, it is just untrue that homosexual parents somehow raise children who are gender confused or angry or more likely to be gay. Reserach has consistently proven this to be just wrong.

In reality, a parent is a parent – gay or straight. Parenting will have the same trials and tribulations regardless of the sexual orientation of the parent or for that matter, the child. There will continue to be children of homosexuals and children of heterosexuals that have emotional problems, behavior problems, learning problems – social problems. Attempting to blame any problems such as these on a parent’s homosexuality is merely another societal attempt at blaming and excusing. The fact is – a bad parent is a bad parent, and they exist as both homosexuals and heterosexuals.

The fact of the matter is a homosexual parent is MORE likely to raise a tolerant, open-minded, free-thinking child. And a homosexual parent is LESS likely to pass on the traits of prejudice and hatred. Believe me, the world is already full of hatred, so a few more tolerant problem solvers will definitely help future generations.

Gender Identity in the Children of Homosexuals

To throw a loop in the arguments surrounding gender identity, nature vs. nurture, genetics vs. choice – what is the impact of having a gay parent on a child’s gender identity? And of course, being a lesbian mother to three kids – I have some insight, but no answers.

My two year old son loves shoes. He plays with dolls with his big sisters. He wants his nails painted everytime the girls do theirs. Do I think he’s going to be gay? Not necessarily. Do I care if he is? Nope. Of course, being the insecure and somewhat simple minded person that he is – my ex is very critical of a boy doing anything society has deemed to be “girly.”

Simply stated, do I think my acceptance of my son’s very innocent liking of shoes and dolls and fingernail polish with have any effect whatsoever on his gender identity or eventual sexual preferences? Not at all. I think the biggest effect that a person can have on such things is always in the negative realm. I do think that my ex’s negative reaction to any such behavior could have a very detrimental effect on both my son and my daughters. A child should never be ashamed of themselves and a parent should never make a child feel that way.

Jimmy Buffet’s “Simply Complicated”